3 THINGS TO LEAVE BEHIND IN 2015

These are literally the final moments of what has been an interesting year. 2015 has come and it is about to go in a hurry. We all fought battles this year, won most of them, lost some – but in all we were never alone; these final moments should be the time to thank those who fought out battles with us last year – because we’ll need them on the new battlefield that is 2016. 

As the new year approaches too, we can identify so many things that happened last year, which to be quite frank, are not good enough. These things happen both personally and nationally (we’ll talk about the national aspect).
Listening to the President during the media chat yesterday sent me a whole lot of vibes, many good, many others not – so – good. Bottom line though is that as a country, we need to drop so many things in 2015.

1. Sensationalism 

The GCFR mentioned this in one of his answers yesterday. Nigerians are very quick to “sympathize” with just about anyone who claims to have a fight with the government – and this should not be so. Our country is going through hard times and as such, the government needs our support prayers now more than ever.
This Biafra brouhaha in itself is very bad for everyone, but it is made worse by the number of youths who are (permit me to say blindly) raising their arms in vandalism to prove a point they are not even sure of. This fight and others like it need to stop because in a country as big as Nigeria, different sets people will ALWAYS feel marginalized – we don’t need to make a war out of it.

2. Ungratefulness

Someone once said that even if Jesus were to personally come and fix Nigeria, some people would still accuse him of having sinister motives. That person is not far from the truth. Nigerians can be just about anyone but what do we choose to be, ungrateful. This country has a very uninteresting culture of not being able to appreciate good deeds, instead we will find one reason or another to justify out ungratefulness, please friends, let us drop this attitude in 2015. Every form of ungratefulness we show to friends, family and anyone else is wrong and should be dropped. Thank you.

3. Selfish, self – serving attitude

This annoying attitude of ours was brought to the fore more than ever during the Paris bombing last month. People, it is ok to sympathize with other people. No additions or conditions, anything else is selfishness. We live in a country where a Yoruba or Igbo man/woman can open their mouths to say” thank God they are killing their own people” when they get the news of another boko haram attack, yet we call ourselves a nation.
If we cannot show sympathy to our fellow countrymen what charity is there for us to leave home with. Enough is enough.
Let us please drop these attitudes and doings this year and watch our nation go higher in 2016. Have a blessed New Year and pray for Nigeria and the world.

READING THIS MAY HELP YOUR RESOLUTION WORK OUT THIS TIME

One of the major reasons why this season is so much loved by everyone is the multiple celebrations that take place, all of them just one week apart.

The problem however seems to be the days between which you don’t know what name to call them or what to spend your time on – luckily its almost over.

The end of this grey period also signifies the end of the year and for many years now, as the New Year approaches, people begin to make resolutions and promises of things they plan to do or achieve in the coming year, bad habits they plan to drop, good ones they intend to imbibe, bold steps they intend to take. Sadly though, the do not usually succeed.

The success rate of “New Year Resolution” is around 12%(ish) worldwide. This means this practice is a huge failure. Several reasons could be fingered for causing this problem, but some of them could include, but are not limited to the following;

1.       UNREALISTIC RESOLUTIONS

Making a resolution on something worthwhile when we are not in the right position for it is entirely useless. For example, making a resolution to save more money while on a hand – to – mouth income/budget without trying to identify new source(s) of income and key into them. is already a bust. By not setting the required stage for each and every intended resolution, we already make its very foundations shaky and as such it crumbles. Other resolutions too abound – which are all misnamed wishes at best and could be. 

2.       A WISH IS NOT A RESOLUTION, A RESOLUTION IS NOT A WISH

These days, the line between these two have not just become blurred, they are inexistent. Making a resolution out of something you wish for is a total waste of time. Imagine a student resolving to buy a car before the year ends, (assuming he/she can manage to keep their hands clean) this requires a stroke of luck to succeed and should that stroke fail to occur (which it probably won’t) this resolution goes bust. So, as a success tip for making resolutions, separate wishes from them and be very clear on your chances.

3.       PROCRASTINATION IS EVERY WHERE

Many of the resolutions we make are as a result of our procrastination. We defer changes that can be made at any time of the year till the end when it is time to make resolutions again. Resolving to make lifestyle changes like quitting smoking or drinking is something that can be done at any time of the year – so why push it till the New Year? If we can muster up the (procrastinating) confidence to push it this far, the chances are very high that we will push it again.

4.       MEANINGFUL RESOLUTIONS HAVE A HIGHER SUCCESS RATE

When making resolutions, we subconsciously measure their impacts on us and this sort of influences the success of it (or lack thereof). Another example involves a resolution to exercise more, if we have a feeling that doing this would make us look better or feel better then we have the motivation to do it, but on the other hand, a resolution that does not add any decipherable value to us will not be easy to maintain and see through.

These are just four observations of what could make a resolution fail (or succeed, when applied properly). This writer cannot claim to be a professional at resolutions, but he is rather another failed resolutionist who believes learning from mistakes is the only way not to make more of them.

Please make a resolution to #PrayforNigeria and #PrayfortheWorld. It will be quite easy too. 

YOU HAVE THE BEST CHRISTMAS GIFT ALREADY

Merry Christmas dear friends, may the true essence of this season never be lost on us and may it bring us multiple graces that fit all our desires. Amen.

Talking about desires, permit me to get very personal with my point of view this morning (it’s not like I know any other way). We have discussed what Christmas should mean in truth, today I would like to go one better and explain why I think family is the greatest gift of all.

AND WHEN THEY ASK "WHAT DOES CHRISTMAS MEAN TO YOU?"

It has been quite the year for everyone – both in a good and bad sense, but we have to be grateful for the overall good which is the gift of life. Being here is not by chance, but however you choose to see it, we are here and that’s what counts.

So many questions crop up at this time of the year; from Jehovah’s witnesses asking “does the bible ask you to celebrate Christmas?” to your friends and random girls asking for gifts to commemorate the season. The loudest question you are going to hear people ask is “what does Christmas mean to you?”

Ironically, whenever I see clergy men and other “important” people answer this question all the say is “this is not a season to eat and drink in excess… or indulge yourself in …bla bla bla”.